Tuesday, February 12, 2013
Warning: Rant Ahead
SERIOUSLY, what is the deal with everyone wanting to feed other people's babies?
Maybe this is just a problem we have, but it seems like every time we share food with anyone, they want to feed E things from their plates. Sometimes without asking. When she was six months old, my father-in-law tried to give her root beer. ROOT BEER. Another time, I had to fish oranges out of her mouth when another relative gave them to her, without my permission and while I was in the restaurant restroom, before E had been exposed to citrus. Even last week at church, the lady who holds E while I sing in praise band (and who knows of her dairy allergy) tried to give her a butter-soaked biscuit before church.
And maybe I am just being an irrational bee-otch about the whole thing, but this irritates the HELL out of me. It annoyed me before we knew E had food allergies, and now it really pisses me off... especially because the offenders are almost always people who KNOW she is allergic to dairy and to whom we have repeatedly explained that we have to be hyper-vigilant about what we feed her because dairy is in everything. It also makes me super paranoid that if I look away for a second, someone will sneak her food that she shouldn't have and she will be sick for days, all because someone thought they knew better than S and me.
This rant has been bubbling under the surface for awhile now, but was prompted by dinner last night with my in-laws. Once again, we spent the entire first half of our meal fending off their attempts to feed E random things (chocolate chip cookies, bacon off of FIL's cheeseburger, breaded chicken strips...) and repeatedly explaining that no, she can't have that, it has dairy in it, while they continued to push the issue and with S's mom shooting increasingly less-subtle dirty looks to FIL from across the table.* Good times!
I seriously don't know why my in-laws (and everyone else) have such an issue with this. Does E look like she is starving and needs you to feed her? She has ranked in at least the 90th percentile for weight pretty much her entire life, so I hardly think that is the reason. Do they think we are just crazy over-protective parents? (Probably.) That we are abusing E by denying her chocolate/butter/etc.? Or that we are doing this just for fun-sies? I really don't get it. Even before having E, I would never offer a child food without asking their parent's permission first.
And I'm sure everyone means well, but SERIOUSLY! Lay off the baby, she is not starving.
* side note: MIL hates me and frequently shoots FIL dirty looks any time she disapproves of things I do and say. Oh, and she hasn't spoken to me since before E's birthday party in November. But that is another story for another post...