I've been reflecting on me and E's breastfeeding relationship a lot lately, as I am starting to think about how and when she will wean. She has a mouth full of chompers now, and has been increasingly interested in eating more solid foods, so I'm sure the time will come before I know it. Add to that the fact that yesterday I was diagnosed with mastitis and my right boob is currently SO painful I can barely stand to feed her, and the issue of weaning is definitely fresh on my mind.
I always imagined I would breastfeed E for a year, and then follow her cues as to how long to continue after that. I like the idea of baby-led weaning and definitely don't want to cut her off before she is ready, but at the same time I am starting to look forward to the day when I can have my boobs back to myself (S is too... haha!). So, I kind of feel like the end is in sight. I thought I might be more sentimental about losing that bonding time with her -- and maybe down the road, once I've had some distance, I will be -- but right now, I feel at peace with weaning her whenever she is ready.
Anyway, all of that has been on my mind lately. Then I stumbled upon this post at The Alpha Parent, another blog I read, about all of the potential difficulties you must overcome while breastfeeding, and I decided to play her game of "Boobie Trap Bingo".
Here is my completed bingo card (click to enlarge):
No "bingo!" for me, but I have to say that I have been extremely fortunate to face as few of these challenges as I have. I have had to pump at work for seven months now, but several of my coworkers had pumped before me, and my employer and other coworkers never batted an eye at my need to relieve myself. E had some weight gain issues in the beginning, and we did have to supplement with formula for a few weeks, but I am lucky that we were able to increase my supply and get her back to exclusively breastfeeding for as long as we have.
I am also extremely thankful that I have had such supportive friends and family, many who breastfed/are breastfeeding their children and who have been a great resource for me. And of course I am fortunate to have a supportive partner. S has been my biggest breastfeeding-cheerleader all along, and never encouraged me to quit and switch to formula, even during the most difficult times. S was by my side reminding me what a great thing I was doing, and literally cheering me on -- "you can do it! you are doing great! hang in there!" -- when I was sobbing in pain while feeding E during our 13-week-long battle with thrush. He has also not complained once that he has been effectively cut off from "the girls" while I've been nursing E; it is just too uncomfortable and weird for me to think of them as anything but a food source right now. I know that not everyone has such a wonderful support system.
Whew! Well, that was probably more than you ever wanted or needed to know about my breastfeeding adventures. LOL
If any of you decide you'd like to play Boobie Trap Bingo as well, click on over to The Alpha Parent and complete and post your bingo card too. I'd love to see them! :-)
I had mastitis 2 times so far and I know it hurts but it really did help me to feed lk from the infected side every time he fed and just pump the other. It was he'll. I had a super bad case too with fever, chills, the whole 9 yards. It also help to take hot showers, massage the infected breast when you are feeding, and finally warm compresses! Good luck!
ReplyDeleteYikes, so sorry you've had to deal with this twice! But thank you so much for the suggestions. I have been trying to feed her from that side first (OOOOOWWWWW!!!!!!) and have been using warm compresses, which has helped. I also got antibiotics from my doctor yesterday, so I expect those to kick in any time now and that should help a lot too. ;-)
DeleteI somehow stumbled on your blog and reading this post and your potential weaning story has very odd appropriate timing for me. My son just spontaneously decided to wean at 21 months old a few weeks ago. It broke my heart and I miss that closeness something fierce, though I am adjusting better each day to our new routines. So while I know you are probably exhausted (mastitis, yikes, poor thing - and that thrush. double yikes!) try not to rush it too much, as it will be here before you know it! It's almost enough to make me want to try for another. That's about the time my rationale brain kicks in again and tells me to shut up! Best of luck however it goes!
ReplyDeleteThanks! You're right, I'm sure I will miss it some day. I'm sorry you are having a hard time with your little guy weaning. I hope the adjustment is a smooth one for you both! :-)
DeleteHaha! What a lovely post! And what a beautiful blog you have! I am your newest follower!
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Aww, thank you! :-)
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